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The Disconnect.

October 1, 2019addiction, brain research, contemplation, grief, healing, health and wellness, human behavior, love, personal testimony, psychology, relationships, social behavior, sociology, truth, Uncategorizedaccepting responsibility and rejecting blame, alcoholic blackouts, alcoholic blackouts and amnesia, alcoholic blackouts and missing time, alcoholism and misplaced blame, David Motily LPC, forgiving self, public intoxication and missing time, reacting to alcoholic out acting, Susan Toner LPCruth ann scanzillo

There is a profound disconnect between an active alcoholic’s self perception and the image others develop about him/her.

Repeated blackouts cause both memory fails and amnesia; whereas those who were present observers of the blackout behaviors cannot forget what they have seen and heard, to the alcoholic such behaviors never happened.

Therefore, the person the alcoholic thinks he or she is bears no resemblance to that person others have come to know.

If you have become entangled in the life of an active alcoholic who indulges repeated blackouts, categorically reject all blame assigned to you for any of their actions.

You caused nothing, are responsible for nothing about their behavior, and must forgive yourself every reaction to it.

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© 10/1/19 Ruth Ann Scanzillo.

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