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The Disconnect.

There is a profound disconnect between an active alcoholic’s self perception and the image others develop about him/her.

Repeated blackouts cause both memory fails and amnesia; whereas those who were present observers of the blackout behaviors cannot forget what they have seen and heard, to the alcoholic such behaviors never happened.

Therefore, the person the alcoholic thinks he or she is bears no resemblance to that person others have come to know.

If you have become entangled in the life of an active alcoholic who indulges repeated blackouts, categorically reject all blame assigned to you for any of their actions.

You caused nothing, are responsible for nothing about their behavior, and must forgive yourself every reaction to it.






© 10/1/19    Ruth Ann Scanzillo.

Love. Do We Need It?

Recitations from



© 9/12/19    Ruth Ann Scanzillo.      More, in print, at this blog  ( , at your leisure; for my purposes, these essays, poems, and proverbs were written over the past 5 years.  Thank you.

“Separation Anxiety” [newly edited]

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